Couples who each truly place the needs and wants of their partners on par with or above their own seem handle a lifetime of compromising, juggling priorities, and collaborating better than couples who individually pursue their own best interests." — Laura Vander Drift, associate professor of psychology at Syracuse University's College of Arts and Sciences and director of the Close Relationships Lab at Syracuse University "One of the major signs that tells you if the person you're dating is right for you is how they treat you when you're sad, crying, having a bad day, or just emotional. Are they distracted when you're expressing your feelings and most of all, do they know when to just give you a hug?
It may seem simple but this is a very important trait to know what kind of human being the person is.
If they criticise you for being sad or tell you that how you feel is silly that you're over-reacting, that may be something to pay attention to. Although later, you may think you were over-reacting, it may be just as important to know you were being listened to in the onset." — Catenya Mc Henry, journalist and author of Married to a Narcissist "Something that is important is whether this person has boundaries. In healthy relationships, growth is very important, generally in the same direction, so you need to be able to have arguments, and conflicts and points of disagreements without killing each other.
Boundaries are important because it means someone isn't a pushover, and they can communicate when they are unhappy. Rather it's an opportunity to say, hey, this is how your brain works, this is how I feel, and can we actually learn from each other in this point in time, and grow in the same general direction, with our own wisdom and our own failures." — Perpetua Neo, psychologist, expert in toxic relationships and creator of the Detox Your Heart program "One of the first ports of call of an effective narcissist or an effective manipulator is to dissociate you from your own capacity to listen to yourself and your own intuition.
"As simple as this may seem, I call it the 'bar test' to know if you're with the right person.
When you're at a bar (or restaurant, wherever) with your new partner, are you looking around to see who else is out there or who might see you two together?
In a dating relationship don't be exclusive—care about others too. "Next, learn to put aside your own desires so that you will become patient and godly, gladly letting God have his way with you. Don't keep looking at my sins—erase them from Your sight.
Have faith and love, and enjoy the companionship of those who love the Lord and have pure hearts." It is unwise to date someone who doesn't love God. "Don't be teamed with those who do not love the Lord, for what do the people of God have in common with the people of sin? And what harmony can there be between Christ and the devil?The woes don't necessarily stop when you find someone.With Tinder right at your fingertips, it's tempting to go back and see if there is someone out there who is just a bit more perfect.If you already have a partner this Valentine's Day, congratulations, you've beaten the system. There are so many rules and games to play it's easy to lose track.You might be "left on read" by someone you really liked and your mind may spin out of control when you're over-analysing what their last few messages really meant.